Wednesday, March 25, 2015

What Does It Mean To Be Strong?

Someone close to me said to me recently point blank, "You are not strong...you're not a strong person."  I have to admit, those words stung a bit.  And, admittedly, I was shocked to hear them - shocked into silence for a few moments.  I couldn't stop thinking about that conversation and those words. In fact, I've been replaying that little sound bite in my head all day long.  Partly because the individual who said it to me has been a close friend for the past several years and I didn't realize that this is how they saw me. The other reason is that I've been wondering if it's indeed true, but not convinced that it is, and hoping that it isn't.
So, I found myself asking, what does it mean to be a strong person?

Not a Survivor

(I originally wrote this within the first 6 months after my daughter's death. I didn't post it then, I don't remember why.  I...